Hi Reader,

I know. I know.
I’m writing to you after almost three weeks.

A lot has been happening.
And yes—this also includes me turning 41 few days back.

Still learning about life.
(And wife.)

Here are a few unexpected lessons I’ve picked up recently:

• I can try to stop winning arguments and avoid giving the last statement.
  (Which basically translates to: just say sorry and keep your mouth shut. I know. Very hard. But… try.)
• I’m taking coaching from my wife on how to kiss.
  ​Quick tip for all the guys out there: don’t go for the kiss directly.
  Just sharing—if that helps in any way at all 😄
• I’ve learned that my wife gets impressed by how I treat my son.
  Can you believe this?
  I thought I always treated him well.
  Anyway… something to reflect upon.
• Your body starts giving clear signals that it needs more care—and will stop supporting you unless you support it properly.
  This is damn serious.

Kevin Hart agrees with me.
In his latest special, he says:

Now, let’s talk public speaking.

In the last newsletter, I shared my thoughts on building the contest muscle. Today, I want to share 6 daily routines that will actually get you there.

1. Read the best public speaking books—but don’t stop there.​
   Ask yourself: How does this apply to my speech?​
   That’s when real learning happens. I can’t emphasize this enough.
2. Do voice exercises.​
   There’s real magic in voice training.
   I genuinely wish more people took this advice seriously.
   ​Here’s a direct link.​
   ​You’ll thank me later. Please—just do this.
3. Visualize yourself giving the speech.​
   A large part of public speaking happens in the mind.
   Visualization trains your mind before you step on stage—and that’s crucial.
4. Write affirmations.​
   Write exactly what you want to achieve on contest day.
   Write with emotion. Write with complete belief that it will happen.
   The emotional part is super important.
5. Test your speech in daily life.​
   Try your lines in conversations.
   Observe reactions.
   Tweak, refine, repeat.
6. Ask for feedback.​
   From friends, family, and your community.
   Feedback is a powerful growth tool—and it applies to everything, not just speeches.

That’s it for today.

And as always, thanks for being awesome!

— Rama

P.S: Wish you happy holidays and a happy new year! Speaking of which, if you are looking for personal coaching on public speaking and behavioural change that'll help you move forward, please reply and say coaching. I've some spots open for coaching starting Jan 2026.